How convenient is a hidden marriage workplace?
The entertainment industry can be described as a series of happy events. A series of “hidden marriage” artists have been “kicked” and have been secretly married, and characters have begun to gossip other artists . Of course, the entertainment industry is a special workplace.Take the lead, in fact, in our mass workplace, the majority of “hidden marriage” are women.
An online “hidden marriage survey” shows that nearly 37% of people are willing to be “hidden marriage people” because they worry that public marriage may fall into the loss of the trust of their boss or client. Most of them are concentrated between 25 and 35 years old.Most of them are women.
In the legal sense, “hidden marriage” is not illegal, but how convenient can it actually be for women?
Under the interview, the reporter found that the effect of “hidden marriage” is most reflected in the embarrassing age of applying for and living in the workplace. More and more people imitate that “hidden marriage” is not a long-term plan, and sometimes it is “hidden” too much.Lou Zi made colleagues and supervisors feel distrustful of themselves.
Experts analyze that “hidden marriage”
is actually not self-confident. Why would there be “hidden marriage” in the workplace?
According to Wu Fan, a professional consultant recruited by Zhilian, this is caused by both objective and subjective reasons.
The objective reason is that there is a certain deviation in the concept of employment of many business owners or managers, which has exaggerated the impact of married people ‘s family burden on work, but did not see the “married” work-friendly side, such as the sense of responsibility and loyalty.Promotion etc.
In addition, many fast-growing companies are unable to meet the needs of married people in terms of workload, benefits, expenditures and humanized management, to ensure the stability of the team in the short term, and it is easier to recruit and promote unmarried people.
Most female hidden marriages are, of course, because a few employers still have sex discrimination in the process of recruitment and layoffs-many business owners or managers are affected by the traditional concept of “male outside, female inside”, thinking thatMarried women are more affected by family matters than men.
However, “hidden marriage” people also have problems. First, they are not confident enough about their own strength. They worry that their “seat” will be unstable once they are labeled with marriage. Second, career-oriented professionals are weighing the work.And family, more choices for work and career.
Talking purely from the perspective of professional development, the status of “married” is both pros and cons, and “pros outweighs disadvantages.”
As the old saying goes: start a family and start a business.
The family plays a huge role in improving the individual’s overall quality and development momentum. Married people need sufficient ability and quality to handle family chores. It is definitely not lower than the requirements of work, and the married person is also significantly higher than the unmarried person in terms of responsibility.This is actually an important part of what employees need.
What’s more, concealing a moment from time to time can’t be concealed, and once found, the consequences will have an impact on your career.
Marriage was originally a happy event for “Little Denko”. Some women in the workplace chose “hidden marriage”. Whether it is to find a job or to facilitate work, they are trying more job opportunities for themselves.
A Jun, who has worked in a trading company for 5 years, was laid off in the financial turmoil. After being unemployed, he finally got “free” and married his boyfriend who had been running for eight years.Encounter questions like “when are you going to have children?”
Ajun felt helpless: “The moment I heard this question, I knew in my heart that this application was going to be ‘yellow’ again.
“It has been more than half a year since I returned from my honeymoon, and A Jun’s work has not yet landed.
She knew that finding a job was not necessarily related to “married”, but repeated encounters made her feel discouraged, so she tried “hidden marriage”.
As a result, the materials she used, the interviewer’s questions about marriage and childbirth decreased sharply. She was completely asking her if she had a boyfriend, and most of them were still concerned about her working ability. Several jobs with a monthly salary of more than 3,000 yuan have beckoned her.
Hubei Renhua Woman, working in the company’s marketing department, mainly negotiates business with local manufacturers.
In theory, you should rely on strong business standards to pull business, but in the sales industry, you must play a “personal relationship card”, usually eat with customers, drink, and sing K is inevitable.
She is more extroverted and has always liked nightclubs such as clubbing and singing. No one has ever noticed that she is a mistress.
When it comes to work, she is unwilling: Although it is not meant to be ambiguous with customers, but now there are many new people, customers are in favor of dealing with young and unmarried salespersons in the same conditions. The reputation is beautiful!
And she has a lesson learned: After a colleague has disclosed her “married” status, important project bosses will not let her do it, nominally “because she has to take care of the family”, in fact, she is afraid that she will become pregnant halfway throughThe work at the end cannot follow up; in addition, some of her ideas are slightly behind, and she will be laughed at by her “nanny”, which also makes the Chinese girl unbearable.
Fans reacted strongly to Andy Lau’s “hidden marriage”. Don’t object to his marriage. Some even give blessings. The main cause of dissatisfaction among fans is: Why should he hide and deceive?
When it comes to hidden marriage, most of the inevitable white-collar workers show disdain: Why do we want to hide marriage?
This is a sign of dishonesty.
Xiao Ping, who works for a foreign trade company, was married two years ago. In order to anticipate opportunities for business trips-she felt that she can learn more about professional knowledge in business trips, so she chose “hidden marriage”.
The boss reassured her to do many errands. The life of “Flying Man” took at least three weeks in a month, and she deliberately asked her husband and younger to call her. Contacts were made via e-mail or mobile phone text messages.Underground spy.
This state has been maintained for more than a year, and finally “East Window Incident”: the husband is not satisfied with her “shenlong sees her head but never sees her tail”, suspects that she is engaged in extramarital affairs, the boss sees that she has some mysterious actions from time to time, and is worried that she will leak the company.
Xiao Ping’s grievances: “At that time, I felt like I was suffering from the enemy, like a two-sided person. I couldn’t tell the truth to anyone, and I was doing bad things along the way.
“After careful observation,” Hidden Marriage “is really exhausting. What shakes everyone’s trust in her is that she finally announced her married status and slowly adjusted her work and life.
Similarly, An An “hidden marriage” is not as lucky as Xiao Ping.
After discovering that she was married, her boss thought that her integrity was a problem. Later, she gradually let An Dan out of her post, and she no longer renewed her contract when the contract expired.
Some sociologists have said that the long-term psychological implications of “not in a marital state” will weaken the parties’ sense of family responsibility and seriously trigger a marriage crisis.
When marriage is in crisis, home is no longer your “safe shelter”, but it will still affect your work and future.
Some white-collar workers who oppose the “hidden marriage” experience believe that since there is gender prejudice against female employees in the workplace, everyone should be more open to face this problem. Choosing “hidden marriage” is actually a kind of indulgence against employers,The workplace environment did not improve.